NETWORKING WHILE SHY
For some, networking invokes images of good times at career fairs, coffee meetings with industry mates and colleagues, and an opportunity to meet new people. To many introverts, the idea of networking often invokes anxiety, leading many to give up before they have even started. Small talk and making new connections doesn’t always come easily to this group of folks, and the idea of talking to strangers is daunting at best. However, one can argue that it is even more important to learn how to network for the people who have a tough time doing so. Here are some things to keep in mind as you sharpen your networking skills.
PREPARATION GOES A LONG WAY
Before you dust off that resume, take some time to think about what you hope to achieve with networking. It could be simply making one new connection or attending one conference. Having a defined goal in mind goes a long way. Just as important, take the time to think about how to introduce yourself and speak about what you do. Knowing you have something to fall back on when the nerves hit is always a plus.
DON’T GO IT ALONE
When in doubt, find a partner to go with you. Sometimes it’s easier to break the ice if you have someone you already know attending conferences and career-building events with. Finding someone to attend a conference with you via Zoom also makes things much easier now that travel logistics are not part of the problem. If you can’t find anyone to attend with you, set a goal such as asking or answering one question during the virtual conference. However, you still have to put in the effort to engage with others even from behind your screen. While screens offer a sense of security, it is also easy to feel as if you have done something when you have only been a spectator.
WHEN IN DOUBT, ASK A QUESTION
Sometimes it is harder to talk about ourselves than it is to ask questions. One way to overcome the nerves would be to ask a question. This requires you to participate by actively listening to the speakers and formulate questions that you can ask later. Conversations are about give and take, and asking a question may be just what you need to get over the initial set of nerves.
CHALLENGE YOURSELF
Start small, but always have a plan on how you can keep improving your skills. At first, you may make the goal of attending one conference a year, then two. You can also make goals such as talk to 4 people at the next event you attend or introduce yourself to one of the speakers at the events. And so forth. By starting small, you get to build your networking confidence, and before long, you’ll be a pro.
